Over the past month and a half,
we have had SO many amazing adventures with Marshall.
In the past, the same outings that were nightmares,
we can now put in the 'positive experience book'.
Castle Fun Park.
I don't think i've ever shared about the first time
we took Marshall there, and honestly i really don't
remember much about it anymore...
except that he hated it, and it was stressful. lol.
It was all so overwhelming for him
and we couldn't get him to do anything besides
run away from us screaming.
When we left i remember thinking that we
would try again when he was 20. lol.
That was probably like a year and a half ago.
I bought a Groupon for $25 with a value of $50 (woohoo!)
and my husband and i decided to try again over
Christmas break.
I knew it'd be better than the last time...
well, i didn't know, but i figured it really couldn't
be any worse than the last time.
As i continue to say,
Marshall is not the same child anymore.
You can get his attention and keep it now...
not for very long, but long enough to get him somewhat focused.
Marshall loved Castle Fun Park this time.
He was all smiles and played tons of games.
We walked our way through the entire place
for a couple of hours and it was simply, enjoyable.
Both kids really liked the rollercoaster simulation ride!
Nobody knew that Marshall has Autism,
and in these precious moments, i forget too,
and it's a wonderful break for myself... to embrace the now.
No thoughts of appointments or therapies
or what my crazy hectic day will look like tomorrow.
Wonderful.
We plan to go back when the weather warms up
and take the kids on the Go-Carts for the first time.
That should be a big hit, not a miss, if we can get
Marshall's seatbelt and helmet on successfully :D
Marshall was recently invited to a birthday party
at the Safari Zone with his entire preschool class.
The parents rented out the place and
specifically told me that they'd love to have Marshall there.
That was nice.
Some of you may remember my post last August about
a birthday party at the Safari zone.
If you haven't read it, i encourage you to.
In doing so, you can understand where we've come from.
So naturally, recieving this party invitation brought
back all of the memories i had tried to forget.
My first thought was that no, i wasn't going to do bday
parties with Marshall anymore.
But, then i reminded myself
that i need to stop selling Marshall short.
I need to believe in him,
to not be afraid of the what ifs.
Look at how much he has accomplished,
how much he's grown.
Ok, so i decided that i would take him to the party.
I had an extra boost of confidence from
Marshall when we took the kids the day before the party
to the new UPlay that just opened up .
He had a blast and listened to
my husband and i the whole time.
When it was time to leave, he came and sat
down and put his own shoes on without
much protest and we were able to leave
without tears or screaming :)
Marshall did awesome at the birthday party.
In comparing this experience to the last one...
He keeps his socks on now, so no issue there.
My concerns of him running out the doors
into the world still exist, but very minimal now,
so i was able to visit with some of the parents
which is something i have really missed out on over
the past couple of years.
When the call for "cake" was made,
my anxiety level rose as i remembered how i
couldn't get Marshall out of the play area last time.
This time, he followed his friends
over to the table and sat down happily.
When they sang, "Happy Birthday"
he watched. He didn't scream. He was ok to not
be the one to blow out the candles.
He ate his cake and snacks and then asked me to
wipe his dirty hands, and back into the
play area with some of the other kids
who were done eating.
When it was time to go, i gave him a 5 mintues warning
and when it was time, he said ``no!``
but when i showed him his shoes and jacket,
he came over to me, sat down, and put them on!!! :O
He said `bye` and even ``thank-you!``
when he was given his goody bag :)
Such a different experience.
In the past couple of months, i have made some new friends.
Parents who also have kids with special needs.
People who i believe God is putting in my life at this time.
I'm not sure if they are in my life to help me, or for me to help them,
but either way it is so wonderful to connect
with other parents who understand, who get it.
And i'm sorry to all of you out there who try,
but you just have no idea until it's your life.
One of my new friends is in the earlier stage of her sons
recent diagnosis. And i feel for her so much.
She cannot see the big picture right now.
A lot of her struggles with her son
are exactly what i was going through with Marshall a year ago.
I keep telling her that it will get better.
She didn't see Marshall before, she only sees him now.
When i look in her eyes i see so much doubt
and disbelief that her son will acheive the same milestones.
Back when it was me, i didn't see it either.
Any kind of normalcy was not within my reach,
not even in my dreams.
The diagnosis and the daily challenges that come with it
kinda stop you in your tracks.
There is so much to take on, to work on,
on a daily basis, and it is often exhausting and overwhelming.
And it can be depressing for sure.
The progress in Marshall is hope.
And i know it's encouraging a lot of other people,
other parents, and i believe strongly that God's hand is in
all of it.
You don't think about God using your kids for His will
when they're so young, we tend to focus on God's will
for us in their little lives.
I am doing my best with Marshall, and i believe
that what we have in place for him right now
with all of the intervention
is what's right for him.
How cool is it that God is using Marshall,
as a living, breathing, loving example of hope.